A few months ago, I was moping about a friend that I missed and the great fun we had last fall, right? Well, I still had contact with said friend, we will call him Mason, because I stupidly, really thought we had cultivated a friendship. I grant you that I can be naive but this blows naivety out of the frickin window. OK, like I said, Mason and I were still talking, no longer hanging out but we were friendly and would catch up with each other. Last month Mason gets back together with his on again off again love, I was truly happy for him. I knew their break up was hard on him as we had discussions about it. Look, anytime my friends fall in love or get back together with 'the one' I am all for it, my feelings aside, truly.
Last night I met a side of Mason that I never even knew existed. You know how they say 'never judge a book by it's cover?' Well, if he's in a band, you can, because the stereotype is there for a reason ladies, especially if he is the lead singer. I'm out with my sons and their friend for dinner, always a good time, and I get a text from Mason. Very nice since he had been out of the country doing some gigs. I was excited to hear about the trip, the weather etc. We get that aside and he goes into sleaze mode. When Mason and I were hanging out last fall, we had very good evening convo's, so I'm not going to sit here and say I'm a prude, however, once another is in the picture, you are a FRIEND and I don't have those discussions with you anymore. When I told Mason this, he gets snippy, quite hilarious actually, and I convey that him being with his gf, this isn't happening and I was pissed he would even think I was some whore he could have these talks with. Excuse me, I am a Princess, and you are NOT going to play me for a fool or worse, a number. Move on down the alphabet my love. When I call him out for having the gf his reply was, and I'm quoting here, "we're working on things...yea so". If he had been standing in front of me I would have slapped him. One of "their" and I mean his issues was he had broken her trust. Gee, really, color me shocked. ;p....I say "why would you chance losing her with this talk then?" Clearly, he didn't like this calling out because he comes back with "harmless fun..don't get so offended". There were so many offenses last night that I couldn't even point to just one. What did I learn last night? When a guy says to you early on, "I'm a bad guy" frickin listen to him, he's not lying, he is telling you he is a scum wad. Unfortunately, his niceness shadowed that for a very long time with me. And since I considered us friends, I never thought I would see this side, which come to think of it, he doesn't have just two sides, he has ummmm, 5? But I also realized, we aren't friends, not in the tradition I see friendships in. I was and am just a number in his heavy Rolodex, but no longer. I see him for what he truly is now and I can never unsee that.
Thursday, May 30, 2013
Wednesday, May 29, 2013
To Date or Not to Date...well for me it's always NOT
I enjoy listening to my friends, male and female, discuss their dates and or dating life. It confirms why I have chosen to not date in seven years, yes, I said seven years. And to qualify, 'hanging out' and 'dating' are two different things. Dating you have 'relations', hanging out, you do not. :)....stopped you all before you even said "bullshiz". lol
Anyhoo, I have friends who do the online dating sites, which if nothing else, is pure comedy for all of us on a Friday or Saturday night. My one guy friend gets these weird messages every weekend and we have a game we play to see what type of person has "poked" him. I think I'm winning actually. But he trudges on ever seeking that one connection he wants to feel. I mean I get that aspect of it, but the crap you have to shovel through, is so not worth it to moi. I am really happy hanging with my peeps and my kids. I can come and go as I wish, which was a huge issue when I was married or in a few relationships. I was lucky with the last one, he did his thing and I did mine but we still made time for each other. Guess that's why we were back and forth for 5 years. But alas, both of us have moved on and we are better people for the time we did have. Well he is for sure, me I don't know. hahahahahah. As I was saying, I love when my friends would say " I don't like drama" yet every relationship they cultivated, wreaked in heavy drama. Coincidence? I think not, it's not them honey, it's all you and your psychoness. But those are ex friends so I no longer have to listen to either of them drone on. Oy!
I recently met a few lovely ladies, who are both smart, attractive, funny, have their own things going on, both are gainfully employed and are not looking for Sugar Daddies, but just a nice guy to share their life with. You would think they were asking for the Hope diamond to be set at their feet. I just don't get it. One gets asked out quite a bit, but she likes another so she doesn't really go. The other, is like me, we don't get approached and quite honestly, we are both super fine with that. I work at my 'leave me the f*ck alone' vibe, I promise. If I'm out with my friends, I am not looking to hook up with anyone, other than my friends. So bah bye for you now. I'm not rude if someone does talk to me, but I keep it completely friendly. I can be a total bitch, but as long as you aren't rude or obnoxious, I'm good.
When I was in high school, my Mum used to encourage me to go out with guys I really had no interest in. Her motto was and still is "you never know who you might meet out". Newsflash, I have never met another while on a date. I personally, find that rude and ungracious not to mention tacky. Oh and did I mention bad karma???? But as I listen to my peeps and their stories, which by the way, are always entertaining and hilarious especially this one having to do with a parking lot, I really wish that one of those times, that date will turn out to be their "one". I pray every night for all of my single friends to find everlasting love because in the end, I want all of my pals to be happy. And if a mate makes them happy, then I will do whatever I can or needs to be done to make it happen. I'm just that kind of girl. You want to meet a cute boy/girl, point him out and I am on my way to getting that person for you. All they have to do is ask, or sometimes just say 'Hey that person is cute' and off I go.
Anyhoo, I have friends who do the online dating sites, which if nothing else, is pure comedy for all of us on a Friday or Saturday night. My one guy friend gets these weird messages every weekend and we have a game we play to see what type of person has "poked" him. I think I'm winning actually. But he trudges on ever seeking that one connection he wants to feel. I mean I get that aspect of it, but the crap you have to shovel through, is so not worth it to moi. I am really happy hanging with my peeps and my kids. I can come and go as I wish, which was a huge issue when I was married or in a few relationships. I was lucky with the last one, he did his thing and I did mine but we still made time for each other. Guess that's why we were back and forth for 5 years. But alas, both of us have moved on and we are better people for the time we did have. Well he is for sure, me I don't know. hahahahahah. As I was saying, I love when my friends would say " I don't like drama" yet every relationship they cultivated, wreaked in heavy drama. Coincidence? I think not, it's not them honey, it's all you and your psychoness. But those are ex friends so I no longer have to listen to either of them drone on. Oy!
I recently met a few lovely ladies, who are both smart, attractive, funny, have their own things going on, both are gainfully employed and are not looking for Sugar Daddies, but just a nice guy to share their life with. You would think they were asking for the Hope diamond to be set at their feet. I just don't get it. One gets asked out quite a bit, but she likes another so she doesn't really go. The other, is like me, we don't get approached and quite honestly, we are both super fine with that. I work at my 'leave me the f*ck alone' vibe, I promise. If I'm out with my friends, I am not looking to hook up with anyone, other than my friends. So bah bye for you now. I'm not rude if someone does talk to me, but I keep it completely friendly. I can be a total bitch, but as long as you aren't rude or obnoxious, I'm good.
When I was in high school, my Mum used to encourage me to go out with guys I really had no interest in. Her motto was and still is "you never know who you might meet out". Newsflash, I have never met another while on a date. I personally, find that rude and ungracious not to mention tacky. Oh and did I mention bad karma???? But as I listen to my peeps and their stories, which by the way, are always entertaining and hilarious especially this one having to do with a parking lot, I really wish that one of those times, that date will turn out to be their "one". I pray every night for all of my single friends to find everlasting love because in the end, I want all of my pals to be happy. And if a mate makes them happy, then I will do whatever I can or needs to be done to make it happen. I'm just that kind of girl. You want to meet a cute boy/girl, point him out and I am on my way to getting that person for you. All they have to do is ask, or sometimes just say 'Hey that person is cute' and off I go.
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