Do you ever wonder....

If the reason there is drama or strife, occasionally in your life, that you are the catalyst for it? Stay with me now:


So I had a best guy friend and last year he stopped talking to me. The reason I found out, was because I started drama and was rude and or difficult to his other friends. Now, at the time I was taken shocked because I never want to be the one people think starts drama. I don't care for drama and I don't gossip about others and when people tell me things I don't tell everyone else. But I recently had a falling out with another friend because I found out she was talking to other friends about me and when I asked her a specific question about a situation she told me a completely different answer than another friend. I have always stated that if I cant trust you, then I cant be friends with you. I know this seems harsh, or unreasonable but I don't think it's too much to ask that my inner circle be trust worthy, sorry, it shouldn't even be a thought.


I will cop to being less than friendly with other people.  I cant hide my feelings, so if I don't like you, it's very obvious. Again, sorry, but as Lady Gaga says "I was born this way". My face gives me away and I generally try to just stay away from you or ignore you. It's not me being rude it's my way of being nice to you by keeping my distance.


But with these situations it's had me pondering if I have invited this behavior. I try to be very Zen like and  firmly believe everything happens for a reason, completely believe in karma and try to maintain being a good hearted person (what little heart I have left) and do right by others and reach out to those I think may be having a hard time or just need a little virtual hug.  I think any of my current friends and ex friends would tell you that I am a damn great friend in that respect. I just try to be there for my people, it was how I was raised.


Having said all that, am I delusional, and I know I have been in the past with other relationships but this is different. Do I really not practice what I preach? Am I a hypocrite? Am I just as gossipy or butt my nose where it doesn't belong girl? Rest assured I will look inward to correct that and come out on the other side even more enlightened.


As always, thank you for reading and kiss kiss hug hug.. Till we meet again.

Frenemies

When I left high school, I thought that would be the end of the back stabbing friend. I didn't really have any of those in high school, thankfully, but as I have aged I seem to gather them in my group. This must be why I normally had more guy friends then lady friends, dudes aren't big gossipers.  Some have been friends from other friends, and some have been significant others to my friends. Bottom line is they are never welcomed or needed.


I totally understand if you do something thinking, key word here is 'thinking' that you are doing a good thing. It rarely ever transpires into a helpful course of action though. All it does do is piss the person you thought you were helping out, and if there is more than one person connected to the issue, you've either lost them as a friend or you have annoyed them and made them feel betrayed.


We are all adults in this stage of the game, if you don't have anything else to focus on other than what friend likes what friend or betraying confidences of another friend, then get a frickin hobby. Pick up a second job or even a first if you don't currently have one. Do something other than gossip with other people in our group.


If I cant trust you, I cant have you around. And if I asked you point blank if you did or said something and you tell me no or give me another story, then I have two words for you BYE FELICIA.


Short and sweet, until we meet again, Kiss Kiss Hug Hug.

I love vacay

Is there anybody out there who doesn't love a good vacay? Or even a stacay as long as you don't have to go to work, isn't that pleasant enough? I do like my job but if I had a choice of sitting on the beach, or traveling or taking a cruise, work will lose every time.


I just came back from a delightful beach trip to San Destin, FL. Anytime I can get "home" I'm a happy girl. My college friend and her husband have a trailer, which was very nice I must say, and they got a spot on the beach. It could not have been more perfect. The employees were super helpful and nice, the people we met who also had trailers, motor homes, camping trailers, pop up's, were so friendly and chatty. Now I'm normally not that chatty, however, as I get older I have become more so. It usually helps if I'm holding a cocktail but you know.


Of course the beloved puppy Gigi accompanied me while the kit ties stayed home. Packing for Gigi reminded me of when I packed for the beloveds for a get away. Anyhoo, Gigi is the perfect little traveler. She has her 'car' bed she sits in, on the front seat naturally, and looks at me or just plays with her toys and then falls asleep. We stop for both of us to pee and she jumps to the grass and does her little sniffing and back in the car we are without a sound.


While at the campground they had a spot designated for the dogs in the area. Gigi wasn't too thrilled initially but at the end of the trip she was excited to get to it. I could have made money charging all the people who wanted to pet her and talk to her. She was somewhat of a little hooka though, every time someone would start to pet her she flipped on her back like she was wearing a thong and pasties. Ah, my sweet baby.....


The last day I was on the beach alone for a bit and it was really hot that day and the group next to us had tailgating tents up. I asked the AL fans if I could sit under their tent and read for a little while and the father of the group asked if my gator friend would be offended if I did so. I explained to him that I was in fact the gator and had just switched hats, thus his confusion. Also, P.S. Susan, my friend, and I look nothing alike. She is dark haired and short and I'm blonde and taller but hey grandpa, you are a Roll Tide fan soooooo.....:)\


I hope everyone gets away this summer or just gets away from work and enjoys some down time. Until we meet again peeps, kiss kiss and big hugs.