18 years ago today I remember where I was when Princess Diana was killed. Do you?
I was 9 months pregnant and I had the pregnancy insomnia. I had been up watching TV since about 1 am Eastern time. Back then there wasn't really anything on other than the 24 hour news channels so that's what I watching. All of the sudden 'BREAKING NEWS' alerted and they start talking about the car crash that the Princess was in. I gasped in horror, this is horrible news. No No No. Then a few minutes later they came back and said she had passed away. I cannot even begin to tell you the loss I felt.
Clearly, I never met Princess Di, however, we were close in age and like her I had my 'heir and the spare'. We knew baby #2 was a boy. She had married an older man, so did I, she had a less than perfect marriage, so did I. She was a swimmer, so was I. She was a shy child, hard to believe, but so was I. She had the means to do things I wanted to do and still would love to do. She helped others and traveled the world educating people on various horrors of the world. She was caring, considerate, loving and above all, loved her beloved's more than life itself. As I sat there, talking to beloved #2 and patting my huge stomach, I cried for her, I cried for her sons. I couldn't imagine the pain they were having to bear at such a young age. Even now it's heartbreaking to think of.
I'm sure that Princess Diana is quite proud of her sons and thankfully Prince Charles redeemed himself with her passing. It appears he has stepped up and became the father they needed.
Life really is that short people. As I stated in my last blog about my friend, you just never know when your last day, minute, second really is. Please be nice to others, and yourself. We all have bad days, but remember, so does everyone else.
Kiss Kiss Hug Hug....smooches.
Monday, August 31, 2015
Thursday, August 27, 2015
Suicide
I found out today that a most beloved friend, attempted to leave this world nearly a month ago. I cannot begin to tell you how devastated I am for me, his other friends and of course his poor family. He and I had discussed cutting out of here and we had a pact that if we ever felt that low, we would reach out no matter what time of day/night, we were there for each other. He made me promise to contact him if ever I found myself that despondent to living. Even though he didn't reach out to me, I feel as if I let him down.
Brian was the man who made me realize how miserable I was in my own marriage and gave me the courage to leave once and for all. I had toyed with the idea over the years but my ex was such a control freak that I knew it would take an army to get out. Brian gave me that oomph that I needed to see I was slowly dying within the marriage. We have been close friends ever since, and that's about 16 years now.
Brian was recently going through a divorce and the last communication we had was him telling me that he had moved into a new loft and giving me all the specs of the place. I now realize that his attempt to leave was a few days later. I knew what moving out and being all alone was about. When I divorced I left the house and moved into an apartment and it was the loneliest feeling ever. A one bedroom apartment after a 3 bedroom/2 bath house, was so revealing. When my kids weren't there I hated being there alone. It was small, dismal and very depressing. So when he told me he had moved I tried to talk up the benefits of being alone. I didn't want him to go through what I did. Clearly his was more lonely that I anticipated. When he left his house he left the step kids and his beloved dogs. I think if he had at least one of the dogs, he may have been able to weather the horrific feeling that overcame him that night.
I know we all have our highs and lows, some people don't get 'check out of dodge' low, but we all have our lonely periods. Thus why I got my beloved puppy, Gigi. Since they straightened out my hormones, I am good. I don't think guys have the same kind of hormonal imbalance we lovely ladies endure at times.
All day I have done nothing but thought about Brian and his other friends and his poor mother. I can't even imagine how she is coping. But we Mom's are pretty strong when we have to be. He will have a very long road ahead of him to getting back to somewhat of a normal life, if that's even possible. I'm told that they still aren't clear just how much brain damage he may have incurred but he is having to relearn everything. That can't be a fun ride. I will pray for his family and for him that he does beat these crazy odds and comes back out on top. Knowing this guy, if anyone can do it, he has all the tools. He's amazing like that.
Till we meet again people, if you think about someone, tell them, if you worry about someone, tell them, if you need someone, TELL THEM. I knew something was wrong as Brian and I talked weekly and I couldn't get a hold of him but I just hoped he was that busy. Luckily an even better friend knew where he lived and when he couldn't reach him called the police and thus our Brian is still with us. Life really is that short and will pass or end in no time. Don't hesitate to let people know how you really feel, if you care about them. The worst that will happen is they will tell you "you are needy" or "give them a break". I'll take that over the alternative.
Brian was the man who made me realize how miserable I was in my own marriage and gave me the courage to leave once and for all. I had toyed with the idea over the years but my ex was such a control freak that I knew it would take an army to get out. Brian gave me that oomph that I needed to see I was slowly dying within the marriage. We have been close friends ever since, and that's about 16 years now.
Brian was recently going through a divorce and the last communication we had was him telling me that he had moved into a new loft and giving me all the specs of the place. I now realize that his attempt to leave was a few days later. I knew what moving out and being all alone was about. When I divorced I left the house and moved into an apartment and it was the loneliest feeling ever. A one bedroom apartment after a 3 bedroom/2 bath house, was so revealing. When my kids weren't there I hated being there alone. It was small, dismal and very depressing. So when he told me he had moved I tried to talk up the benefits of being alone. I didn't want him to go through what I did. Clearly his was more lonely that I anticipated. When he left his house he left the step kids and his beloved dogs. I think if he had at least one of the dogs, he may have been able to weather the horrific feeling that overcame him that night.
I know we all have our highs and lows, some people don't get 'check out of dodge' low, but we all have our lonely periods. Thus why I got my beloved puppy, Gigi. Since they straightened out my hormones, I am good. I don't think guys have the same kind of hormonal imbalance we lovely ladies endure at times.
All day I have done nothing but thought about Brian and his other friends and his poor mother. I can't even imagine how she is coping. But we Mom's are pretty strong when we have to be. He will have a very long road ahead of him to getting back to somewhat of a normal life, if that's even possible. I'm told that they still aren't clear just how much brain damage he may have incurred but he is having to relearn everything. That can't be a fun ride. I will pray for his family and for him that he does beat these crazy odds and comes back out on top. Knowing this guy, if anyone can do it, he has all the tools. He's amazing like that.
Till we meet again people, if you think about someone, tell them, if you worry about someone, tell them, if you need someone, TELL THEM. I knew something was wrong as Brian and I talked weekly and I couldn't get a hold of him but I just hoped he was that busy. Luckily an even better friend knew where he lived and when he couldn't reach him called the police and thus our Brian is still with us. Life really is that short and will pass or end in no time. Don't hesitate to let people know how you really feel, if you care about them. The worst that will happen is they will tell you "you are needy" or "give them a break". I'll take that over the alternative.
Wednesday, August 19, 2015
Things that annoy me part 3
1. People who don't know what side to walk on anywhere. Example: I'm passing you in a hallway, I'm on the right side (which is correct) you are walking towards me straight ahead, as we approach you need to move to your right (which is correct) so that we pass freely not crash in to each other bc you are too stupid to move.
2. People who pee on the toilet seat. There is generally seat covers in most facilities, USE THEM.
3. People who stand in front of my desk and talk bullshit with another while the rest of us are trying to work.
4. Arseholes who don't know how to drive or think they are the only person on the road.
5. People who bring up shiz that happened a year or 5 years ago and won't let it go. It happened we all moved on, why can't you?
6. Team meetings.
7. Guys who hit on you either through Facebook, or in public, and have girlfriends, spouses or the like.
8. People who stand in front of an escalator or elevator that have no intention of using said moving stair/box and don't move and couldn't care less you are trying to discretely stumble around them.
9. Dumbarses
10. Haters
And yes, I have taken my Xanax today, about 20 minutes ago. Thanks for asking. hahahahah. Until we meet again, kiss kiss, hug hug.
2. People who pee on the toilet seat. There is generally seat covers in most facilities, USE THEM.
3. People who stand in front of my desk and talk bullshit with another while the rest of us are trying to work.
4. Arseholes who don't know how to drive or think they are the only person on the road.
5. People who bring up shiz that happened a year or 5 years ago and won't let it go. It happened we all moved on, why can't you?
6. Team meetings.
7. Guys who hit on you either through Facebook, or in public, and have girlfriends, spouses or the like.
8. People who stand in front of an escalator or elevator that have no intention of using said moving stair/box and don't move and couldn't care less you are trying to discretely stumble around them.
9. Dumbarses
10. Haters
And yes, I have taken my Xanax today, about 20 minutes ago. Thanks for asking. hahahahah. Until we meet again, kiss kiss, hug hug.
Tuesday, August 4, 2015
Relationship Issues
When I first met my now ex-husband, he brought these weird arse "rules" he thought I should adhere to. I will say as a young, naïve 21 year old, I did do a lot of them....until I didn't. He thought when he went to bed, I needed to join him. As in, I can't stay downstairs and watch tv or read or whatever else I felt like doing if he was going to bed. Yeah, I thought it was stupid as well. He soon got over that demand. Idiot. Another of his relationship rules was we could never go on vacay without the other. Uh, excuse me? We never did either. As much as I would tell him to go and see his family, without me, it never happened. Ugh. How about I was never "allowed" yes you read that right, to go out without him. When a friend wanted to meet for drinks or go dancing that wasn't going to happen. And you get to a point in a relationship where you "pick your battles" just like when you raise your kids.
When my sister reached bar age he would give me a lecture about going out with her, without him. It just got to be such a hassle that I stopped telling her I would go. Then when I finally had had enough of the relationship, the rules, the lectures, and I said "I'm out", what does he do? Tells me I can go out with my friends, or sister or whomever, he realizes that I need that. If you know me, you know that "telling" me I can do something, is a deal breaker. I don't need anyone telling me what I can do.
Even when I was younger being told what to do would make me flip like a Shamu. How dare anyone tell me what I can and can't do. Who the hell are you? Even my parents never got away with that. My Mum finally got wise and started using psychology and said things in a way that I didn't take offense to. My Dad never really told not to do anything. I was a perfect child, as I am in adulthood, so there was no guiding this Princess. hahahahahah
I have married friends and their husbands are so cool and if they don't feel like meeting up with us, they encourage their spouse to come. I also have friends who have relationships where it's just easier to stay home bc their other either mopes about it, or gives the stupidest reasons for not letting them go. And that's ok for them. Not my relationship, and I'm not judging them. Just creating a post.
For me, I will never again be in a relationship where I have to ask permission, or get approval to do something or go anywhere. I do however, give the respect of telling my other what I want to do to see if there are plans in the works. That, I have zero problem with. That's just a respectful thing to do, in my opinion. But I should never be afraid to ask if I can go meet Stephanie or hit the beach with Susan if that's what I choose to do.
Hope all is having a fabulous week. Kisses!
When my sister reached bar age he would give me a lecture about going out with her, without him. It just got to be such a hassle that I stopped telling her I would go. Then when I finally had had enough of the relationship, the rules, the lectures, and I said "I'm out", what does he do? Tells me I can go out with my friends, or sister or whomever, he realizes that I need that. If you know me, you know that "telling" me I can do something, is a deal breaker. I don't need anyone telling me what I can do.
Even when I was younger being told what to do would make me flip like a Shamu. How dare anyone tell me what I can and can't do. Who the hell are you? Even my parents never got away with that. My Mum finally got wise and started using psychology and said things in a way that I didn't take offense to. My Dad never really told not to do anything. I was a perfect child, as I am in adulthood, so there was no guiding this Princess. hahahahahah
I have married friends and their husbands are so cool and if they don't feel like meeting up with us, they encourage their spouse to come. I also have friends who have relationships where it's just easier to stay home bc their other either mopes about it, or gives the stupidest reasons for not letting them go. And that's ok for them. Not my relationship, and I'm not judging them. Just creating a post.
For me, I will never again be in a relationship where I have to ask permission, or get approval to do something or go anywhere. I do however, give the respect of telling my other what I want to do to see if there are plans in the works. That, I have zero problem with. That's just a respectful thing to do, in my opinion. But I should never be afraid to ask if I can go meet Stephanie or hit the beach with Susan if that's what I choose to do.
Hope all is having a fabulous week. Kisses!
Friday, July 31, 2015
If you're male, you should never be caught dead wearing these items.
As with all of my posts, these are my personal comments, likes, dislikes and pet peeves. You don't have to agree, I allow you to have your own opinion. I'm flexible that way. :)
1. JESUS shoes, OMG, no, nada, never, not even on a dare, EVER wear these out. Save yourself and don't even purchase them. If a female buys them for you she is marking her territory. No woman likes these shoes on men, even his Mum Mary was all "oh sweetie, are you SURE you want to wear those?"
2. Net tank tops. It was funny in the 80's if you were thin and gay, now it's just sad and I don't care if you are the Rock, stay away from netting period.
3. Bike shorts. Unless you are in the Tour De France, no bueno.
4. Toe rings, just don't, please?
5. If you have a furry chest, DO NOT wear a tank top. No one wants to see the beast you contain under your day to day wear.
6. Speedos. My Dad was a huge Speedo wearer, but he could get away with it. Unless you are swimming for your country, keep to the board shorts.
7. Capri pants. Just wear shorts dude. Come on. Don't make people want to throw things at you.
8. Face tattoos. Why hide your beauty with ink. Save it for the arms, legs, chest, back etc.
9. Ratty, torn up, dirty underwear. Your Mum will thank you if you are ever brought into the ER. She won't have to hide her face in shame.
10. Crochet sweater vests. That says it all. If you have to ask, I will have to slap you.
Until we blog again, hug hug kiss kiss. Smooches.
1. JESUS shoes, OMG, no, nada, never, not even on a dare, EVER wear these out. Save yourself and don't even purchase them. If a female buys them for you she is marking her territory. No woman likes these shoes on men, even his Mum Mary was all "oh sweetie, are you SURE you want to wear those?"
2. Net tank tops. It was funny in the 80's if you were thin and gay, now it's just sad and I don't care if you are the Rock, stay away from netting period.
3. Bike shorts. Unless you are in the Tour De France, no bueno.
4. Toe rings, just don't, please?
5. If you have a furry chest, DO NOT wear a tank top. No one wants to see the beast you contain under your day to day wear.
6. Speedos. My Dad was a huge Speedo wearer, but he could get away with it. Unless you are swimming for your country, keep to the board shorts.
7. Capri pants. Just wear shorts dude. Come on. Don't make people want to throw things at you.
8. Face tattoos. Why hide your beauty with ink. Save it for the arms, legs, chest, back etc.
9. Ratty, torn up, dirty underwear. Your Mum will thank you if you are ever brought into the ER. She won't have to hide her face in shame.
10. Crochet sweater vests. That says it all. If you have to ask, I will have to slap you.
Until we blog again, hug hug kiss kiss. Smooches.
Monday, July 13, 2015
Things I Hate Part Deux
I know I am not alone with some of these, but here we go:
1. Liars, not just really bad ones, but good liars too.
2. People who are cruel to animals. Special hell for those scumbags.
3. People who come to work early and then just stand around and talk for 30 minutes. No one wants to listen to you, sit the F*ck down and shut the hell up!
4. Playa's, or players or whatever else they go by. No one needs them, no one wants them and I don't know why anyone would want to be one.
5. Fake people. You know those friends who are always saying "oh we should get together" and then never want to.
6. People who prey on children and the elderly. No bueno on any level.
7. Backstabbers. These are people/co workers you thought were your friends and turns out they aren't.
8. Disrespectful people. There is nothing worse than going out to eat and one of your people is rude to the wait staff or the hostess etc.
9. People who stare at you for no reason. You know what I'm talking about? You walk into the bathroom and they just burn a hole in your body? Or you're walking into a place and a couple just watches you come up from the parking lot and stares at you and if you're me, you're asking yourself, ummm do I have a boob out or what? (Actually I just chalk that up to these people have never seen a real live Princess so they are in awe when I approach, that's the only reasonable answer I can come up with)
10. People, just all kinds of people. Ugh. But I love my kitties and my puppy and my kids. I would die for all of them.
1. Liars, not just really bad ones, but good liars too.
2. People who are cruel to animals. Special hell for those scumbags.
3. People who come to work early and then just stand around and talk for 30 minutes. No one wants to listen to you, sit the F*ck down and shut the hell up!
4. Playa's, or players or whatever else they go by. No one needs them, no one wants them and I don't know why anyone would want to be one.
5. Fake people. You know those friends who are always saying "oh we should get together" and then never want to.
6. People who prey on children and the elderly. No bueno on any level.
7. Backstabbers. These are people/co workers you thought were your friends and turns out they aren't.
8. Disrespectful people. There is nothing worse than going out to eat and one of your people is rude to the wait staff or the hostess etc.
9. People who stare at you for no reason. You know what I'm talking about? You walk into the bathroom and they just burn a hole in your body? Or you're walking into a place and a couple just watches you come up from the parking lot and stares at you and if you're me, you're asking yourself, ummm do I have a boob out or what? (Actually I just chalk that up to these people have never seen a real live Princess so they are in awe when I approach, that's the only reasonable answer I can come up with)
10. People, just all kinds of people. Ugh. But I love my kitties and my puppy and my kids. I would die for all of them.
Friday, July 10, 2015
I LOVE constant complainers....NOT
Look, we all have things that frustrate us, or annoy us from time to time but when your whole life consists of complaining about this or that? It's time to get a new life....literally. We all have days where we hate our jobs, our girlfriends/boyfriends/spouse etc, but if a friend tells you "Hope you have a great week" or "great day" and you come back with "I worked all week" ok AND? I worked all week too and you don't see me constantly complaining about it. IT'S CALLED LIFE! Deal with it.
I have known people in the past who have been Debby Downers. They don't like their job because they feel like a "trained monkey" ok, you work maybe 4 hours a week, STFU. You get paid stupid money for your job, um, let me be a trained monkey for that price. You travel the world, and have n o t h I n g you have to do during the week, I think you can just be quiet. If you don't want to be the trained monkey anymore, cut your hair, and get a different job. Then let's see how you like working like the rest of us do with a minimum of 40 hours per week.
If you don't like your sales job and have been doing it for 30+ years, do something else. Just because you are good at it doesn't make you a slave to it. If you are not happy, then why continue with it? Money is not everything, I know to some people it is, but finding happiness is a much better way to live and love.
If you aren't happy with your current partner but feel stuck or obligated to stay. No, I don't accept that. I was with my ex for 15 years and had 2 kids, I got out you can too. It wasn't easy but thankfully I had my parents for financial help. I had friends for mental help. You can change your status, your position, your hair, your weight your everything.
YOU are the ONLY one who can change YOUR LIFE. Do you want to be 90 years old and wonder what if? Or do you want to be the person who can say I tried, I did the best I could?
Again, I know we all have our beefs periodically, but these beefs shouldn't be everyday. If they are, there's a problem and I cant fix it for you, only YOU can rectify the situation. Just do it and find your happiness....It's worth it, I promise.
kiss kiss hug hug
I have known people in the past who have been Debby Downers. They don't like their job because they feel like a "trained monkey" ok, you work maybe 4 hours a week, STFU. You get paid stupid money for your job, um, let me be a trained monkey for that price. You travel the world, and have n o t h I n g you have to do during the week, I think you can just be quiet. If you don't want to be the trained monkey anymore, cut your hair, and get a different job. Then let's see how you like working like the rest of us do with a minimum of 40 hours per week.
If you don't like your sales job and have been doing it for 30+ years, do something else. Just because you are good at it doesn't make you a slave to it. If you are not happy, then why continue with it? Money is not everything, I know to some people it is, but finding happiness is a much better way to live and love.
If you aren't happy with your current partner but feel stuck or obligated to stay. No, I don't accept that. I was with my ex for 15 years and had 2 kids, I got out you can too. It wasn't easy but thankfully I had my parents for financial help. I had friends for mental help. You can change your status, your position, your hair, your weight your everything.
YOU are the ONLY one who can change YOUR LIFE. Do you want to be 90 years old and wonder what if? Or do you want to be the person who can say I tried, I did the best I could?
Again, I know we all have our beefs periodically, but these beefs shouldn't be everyday. If they are, there's a problem and I cant fix it for you, only YOU can rectify the situation. Just do it and find your happiness....It's worth it, I promise.
kiss kiss hug hug
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